Do You Ever Feel | Left Out?

Hello World!

I've decided on starting a new "series" of blog posts called "Do You Ever Feel..." because, I have a lot of feelings and I need to get 'em out there! Also, I want to help any of you reading this so we're not alone, which fits in quite well with this week's topic, Feeling Left Out.

I can firmly say readers, that I have felt left out many, many times. Sometimes through my own reasons, and sometimes through other people's reasons. I am the kid who never gets invited out, never goes to parties and pretty much just wraps themselves up in their bed and becomes a literal "bed burrito". I know that it shouldn't matter and really I should just be concentrating on my schoolwork, but surely school is also about socialisation too? Of course, I have friends outside of school, and a a few very close online friends, but I cannot help but crave socialisation and interaction without having to make everything happen myself. Relationships between people are a two-way-street and if I put more into the friendship or relationship than the other person I feel awkward, like that person doesn't want me around. 
I personally don't deal very well with feeling left out, I feel so unwanted and worthless that I think I might as well be invisible. I see people I know on social media (*cough cough* we all know the ones I'm talking about) getting invited out to parties and having so much fun that I feel like my life is so boring and mundane. And this is another reason why I started this blog. I want to have my own little corner on the Internet where I can be happy and don't have to compare my life to someone else's on Facebook, or be judged by people for liking the things I like, somewhere I can just sit down, chill out and write my feelings for maybe someone out there on the Internet to stumble across and read. I also want to help anyone else out there who feels left out or unwanted, because then we really aren't alone if we have each other are we? Feeling left out, in my opinion, is one of the worst feelings a person can have. Wanting to socialise has been a natural human instinct since the Stone Age and when we see our friends, or other people out there having fun without us, I guess it's just natural to feel a bit upset or pushed out.

Originally, I started this post to just talk about the feeling of being left out, but after some extensive googling, I've decided to write down some ways to tackle this horrible feeling.

Realise that Everyone Gets Rejected
Everyone gets the feeling of rejection some time in their lives. And it's okay to feel this way, accept that this time you weren't invited to that "amazing" party or that sleepover your friends had. The feeling of rejection is only temporary, absolutely natural and is nothing to worry about. It's also good to accept and acknowledge your feelings of rejection. You may feel a bit down for a while and it's okay to have a good cry at this stage, but understanding your feelings will help you to be able to move on.

Move on Past the Situation
Okay, I've been rejected, now it's time to let those feelings of anger, self-hate or sadness go. Do something that makes you smile, like painting, playing or listening to music, playing video games or any other hobby you enjoy. Don't dwell on the situation, because that will make you feel worse, however, don't use your hobby as a distraction either. For example, if you feel like your friends have all been out together and you've been stuck in the house, do something to spoil yourself! Everyone deserves to treat themselves once in a while! Go on out to Lush (not sponsered - promise!) and buy a ton of bath bombs and bubble bars and go crazy. Or if you don't like bubble baths, do something else you enjoy!

Talk to People and Explain How You Feel
This is an important step, and so is communication. Talk to your friends about how you felt left out because they didn't invite you to that amazing sleepover you saw posted all over Snapchat, and explain to them how rejected you felt. It also helps to politely ask them why the situation occurred in the first place, that way, you can begin to understand their side of the story too. It's also good to listen to their responses, as they may not have even known they were leaving you out in thr first place! They may tell you they assumed something and used it as a reason to leave you out. This is a good opportunity to set things straight and make any assumptions they had, clear.

Wow, this post was deep! So I hope I've been able to help any of you who have felt a bit left out recently, or to use as reference for the future!

Have you got any other steps to feel better after being left out? Write them in the comments below!

Hope you're having an amazing day wherever you are!

Lots of love,

Marshmallow Skye
xoxo



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22 comments

  1. I can relate to this post. I am not a person who likes to attend every party like most people. However, I still feel that gut wrenching feeling when I hear that my friends had an incredible time and all of the stories they have from that night. Sometimes I feel like a recluse but, then again, that's mainly because I don't particularly like going to many parties. I'd rather have a quiet night in haha! I found this post very helpful and I enjoyed reading it. Great job! :) xo

    | Caoimhe xo | www.ismisecaoimhe.blogspot.ie |

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    1. Thank you so much for commenting Caoimhe! I'm really sorry I've only just been able to reply now, but I've been on holiday and stuck without wifi for like 13 hours which sucks! I'd rather have a quiet night in too! Aww I'm so glad you enjoyed reading it and that you found it so helpful! I really appreciate your continued support for my blog!

      Lots of love,
      Marshmallow Skye
      xoxo

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  2. I feel I can really relate to this; I tend to keep myself to myself which really isn't very beneficial in the long run.. Blogging has really helped me make friends, and the community is just so lovely. Ive made a lot of friends through blogging, hopefully we could become good pals too! :) I love your blog! xxx

    sophiejc.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment! I'm the same really, as I'm often doing my own thing because nobody else wants to do the stuff I do, like collectiong vinyl records and stuff. I hope blogging can help me too, and that's the main reason why I started really! Aww, I'd love to be friends with you, you seem like an awesome person! I love your blog too omg!

      Lots of love,
      Marshmallow Skye
      xoxo

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  3. I can also relate to this!! I hardly have any friends, I've always been the one to be left out, be unsociable etc. It's mostly down to my anxiety, a lot of the time I fear socializing and talking to other people, I'm very shy so that doesn't help. However, I am starting University soon which will be a big step for me and I am hoping I will come out of my shell and make friends, so I think part of it is to take the big step when given an opportunity, no matter how scary it seems and see how it goes. XOXO
    http://www.beckybobble.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment! I'm so glad you can relate and that I'm not the only one! I can relate with you too about anxiety, which I hope to make a blog post about in the future. I don't have like really bad panic attacks, but I do get really super anxious and worried quite a lot. I wish you the best of luck at Uni, I'm sure you'll blossom into a fabulous social butterfly! Let me know how you get on, I'd love to talk to you more often!

      Lots of love,
      Marshmallow Skye
      xoxo

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    2. Aw no worries! I would love to read your post on anxiety if you decide to do one, it's nice to be able to find others who feel the same way as you, it makes me feel less alone, knowing many people are on the same boat. Thank you very much I'm really hoping I do, I hope you blossom too, you have the potential to! And I'd love to talk to you more often, it's lovely being able to talk to people!! xxxxxx

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    3. I've actually just finished writing it and it's due to go up at 6pm tomorrow! You totally have the potential to as well! Aww that'd be awesome, and it is isn't it? Do you want to talk on Google+ or Twitter or something? :)

      Lots of love,
      Marshmallow Skye
      xoxo

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  4. I can relate to this so so much! I've recently been dealing with friends leaving me out and especially in a group of girls if you're the only one left out it can feel quite heartbreaking really, and I'm quite an emtional person as it is hahah :)
    I like you am a bed burrito and have found myself this summer just sat in bed watching YouTube videos and yes...not being invited anywhere :)
    You seem like such an amazing person do you have any social media links I can follow because we seem so alike! :)
    - Molly x

    molly-ap.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. I'm so happy that you can relate to this post, I'm always the one to get left out, and I feel exactly the same when you're the only one left out in a group of girls. I don't like the same sort of things that everyone else in my friendship group likes, which is why I often go off and do my own thing, like collecting vinyl records and, more recently, blogging! I'm also a really emotional person, where I can go from 0-100 real quick haha!
      Omg, I'm so glad I'm not the only one that's been binge watching Youtube videos whilst being a bed burrito!!! xD And, if this makes you feel any better, I haven't been invited out anywhere these past four weeks of the summer.
      Aww omg that's such a cute thing to say! You seem like such an awesome person too!! Yeah I do, I'll try and PM you them (if there's any way I can do that haha, I'll figure it out!) I love your blog so much omg, and your youtube is amazing so far!

      Lots of love,
      Marshmallow Skye
      xoxo

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    2. Do you have like a google account because I know you can send pm's through that :)

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    3. Yeah! It's just Marshmallow Skies with a picture of the Beatles as my profile :P

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  5. I can really relate to this. It hurts to find out that people you call friends left you out but you shouldn't let it affect you (I did let it affect me and now I do regret it). Just be strong and if they don't want you then they can piss off :)

    www.elabellaworld.com

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment! I'm really happy that you can relate, as it shows that we aren't alone! Thank you so much for your advice - I promise I'll try not to let it affect me anymore! I love your blog so much!

      Lots of love,
      Marshmallow Skye
      xoxo

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  6. Hey, great blog, this series is such an amazing idea! x I can completely relate to your article, feeling left out is really frustrating and affects our self-worth and our self-image. I think it's important to realise that a group of decent people wouldn't do that to you. I had some friends who acted like that and it honestly took me years to figure out that they weren't worth it. And that it was them and not me. Try to invest into the friendships that are worth keeping and let the others go if they make you unhappy. BTW, I'm looking forward to the next part of these series. ;) x

    113-things-to-say.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment! Yes, you're so right, it's so frustrating and totally affects our self image and worth, and I think to a certain degree, our self confidence. Aww thank you so much, I love writing them so expect plenty more in the future!

      Lots of love,
      Marshmallow Skye
      xoxo

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  7. I didn't have many friends in school because I was so shy, but going to university made me realise that if you make the effort to chat to people you'll find somebody (or a few people) that you have lots on common in and you'll become really good friends! Seriously, I literally just forced myself to talk to people, and I've made some really good friends out of it!

    The Velvet Black // UK Style & Beauty Blog

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment on my post! I'll take your tips on board, and the fact I'm writing this blog is helping me to socialise and I'm making friends out of it! I'm glad you've managed to make some good friends out of Uni!

      Lots of love,
      Marshmallow Skye
      xoxo

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  8. I feel left out ALL the time, but I just like to think it makes me special haha gotta turn things around to make ourselves feel better :P

    And when it comes to making friends I think that the important thing is, if you think differently or are very different, then you should just be supportive and accept each other as you are. For example, I'm quite and reserved, but I've made friends who are not like that at all, and they've come to understand that about me and be cool with it. If someone doesn't like it or wants me to change that about myself, then I'd rather not be with them.

    But yeah, not being invited to something is not fun. There are times when friends don't invite me to certain things because they say I usually say no, but that's only because my country is extremely dangerous and they were always asking me to go out at night, which really scares me. So I talked to them and they started inviting me if it was during the day.

    Communication is key, like you said :)

    Lipstick and Mocha

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment! I totally understand what you're going through, being a quiet and reserved person at heart really, I have to make myself appear to be funny, witty and approachable to get people to talk to me and become friends (although I'm not gonna lie, I'm quite sarcastic and witty when I want to be ;)! You have really good morals in the fact that if people don't like you for you, then they can get lost which I think is an amazing and important thing to keep in mind - I definitely will in the future! If you don't want to do something, then don't do it and I'm so glad that you're not giving in to peer pressure, however they don't seem like nice people if they are deliberately not inviting you out.
      You seem like such an awesome person and I'd love to keep in touch with you! If you have Google+ we could talk more there if you like :)

      Lots of love,
      Marshmallow Skye
      xoxo

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  9. I relate to this so much, i'm like a bed burito to. I always say no to going out and meeting up with people that now people stop bothering and i'm left out a lot. It really does hurt a lot and it knocks my confidence so much aswell, but if you ever want to talk you can and i'll be there xxx
    Daizy x
    http://brightdreamerz.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Thanks so much for taking the time to comment! Omg, I swear, there is nothing better than being a bed burrito!! Aww, I'm really sorry to hear that you get left out too, but with the amount of comments, we're not really completely alone! If you want to talk either, I'm here too, I really appreciate your concern for me!

      Lots of love,
      Marshmallow Skye
      xoxo

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